Last week my parents celebrated their 50th Wedding Anniversary. They didn’t want any “fuss” and went away for the weekend – just the two of them. In a few weeks they are going away with my aunt and her husband.
My parents are in their early seventies. They are fit and well and they lead a very active lifestyle. I wouldn’t want it any other way. Much like the rest of my family, they drink. Quite a lot. It doesn’t really cause problems although my Mum can be a bit opinionated after a few glasses of wine.
My parents know I have stopped drinking. I think they know it was a bit of a problem for me (huge understatement) but I am not sure. They are supportive but I still sense that they think I am overreacting by stopping completely – surely I could just cut down ?
Anyway, today I asked my Mum what they would like for their anniversary and without hesitation she replied “wine – Sauvignon Blanc”. So now I have to buy them some wine and get it delivered (we live some distance away). In my heart I don’t want to but at the same time I don’t want to be all prim and self righteous. Just because I have chosen not to drink, because in reality I can’t drink, why should I impose sobriety on anyone else ? It’s a hard one. I don’t have a moral objection to other people drinking but I don’t think it would do my parents any harm to drink a bit less. In fact I think it would make them feel better. Perhaps it’s because they are my parents and I feel I should be taking care of them ?
Perhaps I am jealous because I would really like to be able to enjoy a glass of Sauvignon Blanc ?
I’m not sure what to do. I think I will just send the wine and next time just choose something myself without asking what they want.