I was supposed to be meeting a friend for coffee this weekend. She got sober just a while after me. When we were arranging the meeting, by text, I asked her casually how everything was going – what I meant of course was “are you still sober ?” I waited for her response and within a couple of minutes up it popped “Made the decision to drink on a night out when I was feeling really down – can see how easy it is to get back into old habits (once you let it in!) but thankfully I’m not drinking regularly.”
After thinking really hard I have cancelled coffee. I have lied about why I can’t make it. Part of me feels really bad. I feel as if I am being judgemental but at the end of the day I have to go with my gut. It’s a case of self preservation.