Club Sober is Live !

I have been talking about setting up a group for sober women for a while now. To try to do something about the lack of support for women like me. Getting and staying sober can be a lonely journey. I have found the fact that I know there are lots of other women out there navigating the same highs, lows and in betweens of quitting drinking but I don’t know who they are, has exacerbated that loneliness. As I go about my daily life, I find I am looking at my colleagues, friends and even strangers and wondering “Could it be her ?” Perhaps some of those women are looking at me and wondering the same.

So Club Sober is live. I have flyers up in my doctor’s surgery and am going to have something in the next practice newsletter. Susie, my drugs and alcohol counsellor has taken some – she cried when she saw me last week for a catch up. That meant a huge amount to me – more than I can say. I have  a post on Mumsnet and they are going to do a media feed on Facebook and Twitter. I will also be asking my local library, community hub and others to take flyers.

So far I have not received any responses.

I know it is very early days but I admit I am a bit disappointed. I feel so passionately about this.  The people I have told about Club Sober have been really positive. But then the self-doubt which plagued me when I was drinking, is whispering in my ear – “This will never work”, “What a stupid idea”, “No one will ever come to THAT “.

But I will keep going and if my idea falls flat on its face and no one responds, I will NOT take it personally. If I don’t try I’ll never know.

The first Club Sober group will take place in Birmingham (UK) on 2 March. Anyone interested can email me for more info.

Spread the word !

Tori XXX



13 thoughts on “Club Sober is Live !

  1. I think this is awesome. Just by taking the time and making the effort, you are putting yourself out there which will ultimately help your recovery. Wish I lived closer to participate but will look forward to see how it goes!

  2. Tori,
    I am really proud of you for doing this!
    You are not afraid to take a leap of faith!
    Many times, people may want to come, but are just unsure about who they will meet, not unlike an AA meeting, where people are afraid they will run into someone they know.
    I hope you get a good turnout, but even if it is just 2 or 3 people, that is a start!

    1. I know it’s a big step for people to come – going to SMART Recovery and to my local drugs and alcohol service was so scary. 2 or 3 people would be wonderful xxx

  3. You go girl!!! That is fantastic! You are going to help so many people! Don’t worry about the no responses. It’s kinda like the blogging….at first nobody seems to be reading your posts, but then, slowly, you start to get some comments. If I lived near you, I would participate! xo

  4. Good luck with it. If I lived nearer I would have come – certainly struggling with the lows at the moment. Look forward to your blog after.

  5. People are just a bit fearful and self conscious – it just takes some time, but gradually you’ll get more response. Sometimes you will feel like everyone is enthusiastic – and other days it feels like you are a lone voice in the wilderness. Keep going, you are doing a wonderful job xx

  6. Well done Susie, I cant make it as I live in London but have you tried setting up a group on ? They have a massive reach and I am sure you would get a good response.

    Good luck!

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